So you’ve had a bad day. Your best friend has hurt your feelings. Your mom is pressuring you to get a better job. Your boyfriend seems distant.
So you decide it’s time for a facebook status to tell them off, but oh so vaguely they won’t know it’s them you’re talking about…or so you think.
You sit there for a few minutes trying to piece together the perfect passive aggressive post…
ok stop. Think this through.
We all need a a facebook filter. Haven’t you heard the verse that says, “Where your facebook status is, there your treasure may be also.” ? It’s a bit paraphrased but it’s there, look it up. I’ve had frustrating moments as well where I’m so annoyed and nobody is around for me to vent to, so I sit there and plan an elaborate facebook status. But I’ve realized the havoc, vague, negative facebook statuses cause. I’ve seen people post things for attention, or to get under somebody’s skin. Sometimes people ONLY post when they are frustrated so you block them because it’s all negative all the time.
So after seeing all this negative facebook drama, I’ve formulated my own Fruitful Facebook Filter and try my best ( not perfectly) to abide by it. In doing so it has made Facebook quite a pleasant place for me. Here are some things to think about before posting every thought you have, on facebook.
Don’t post if…
You are complaining.
“Do everything without complaining or arguing, 15 so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation,in which you shine like stars in the universe” Philippians 2:14-15
Someone might wonder or know you are talking about them.
If your words are tearing someone down.
“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29
If your are bitter and angry…wait for your feelings to subside and think it over and try to deal with the issue outside of facebook.
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,” Ephesians 4:26
You are just venting….go find a friend and talk it out. ( or join a facebook group to vent with so it’s not to the whole world )
“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” Proverbs 29:11
If people will be left wondering if you are ok. If you are not ok pray about it and/ or find a friend.
“Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord.” James 5:13-14
If you are feeling lonely and just want attention.
“Don’t stop meeting together with other believers, which some people have gotten into the habit of doing. Instead, encourage each other, especially as you see the day drawing near.” Hebrews 10:25
I’m not saying to be fake and pretend you’re happy all the time. But life is full of enough negativity without us infecting the internet with more negativity. We can deal with our frustrations in ways which bring us to healing and wholeness. When we don’t filter our facebook status, we are only stewing and marinating in our frustrations, not looking for a solution.
When you’ve had that bad day, and you’re tempted to poison facebook, instead of posting your inner most negative thoughts, think about what words of encouragement would be helpful for you in that moment. There are millions of other people feeling that same way. Post something that helps you out of your bad mood and in the process you will have encouraged countless amount of people. Instead of annoying people with our complaining, let’s ask ourselves ” How can I make my Facebook fruitful in my life and the lives of others?”