Enjoy the words of Joe Zaragoza, as he continues our series, “A Peek into the Heart”. Joe is an amazing, loving, and witty Christian man, who lives for God. He loves The Lord, and has put his heart into writing a blog, http://tobeamantheguide.com, where he encourages men to be gentlemen and guides them how to aim for godliness in every aspect of life. Check out his blog and enjoy this one! God bless!
Christian men need a woman who is opinionated, passionate, and dedicated to The Lord. In my previous post, I discussed how us men need a strong Christian woman to lead right next to us. But an aspect of strength, and a quality that all men need in a woman, is humility. Humility shows love, trust, self sacrifice, and is a quality that Christ Himself demonstrated when He became man, when He spoke to the meek and sinful, and when He gave Himself over to death. Humility is an act of love that is necessary in a relationship.
But Jesus called them over and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles dominate them, and the men of high position exercise power over them. It must not be like that among you. On the contrary, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first among you must be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life — a ransom for many.”
Then the high priest stood up before them all and questioned Jesus, “Don’t You have an answer to what these men are testifying against You?” But He kept silent and did not answer anything. Again the high priest questioned Him, “Are You the Messiah, the Son of the Blessed One?”
“I am,” said Jesus, “and all of you will see the Son of Man seated at the right hand of the Power and coming with the clouds of heaven.”
Christ is the perfect example of humility. He didn’t argue, but responded with the truth. He didn’t insult people or become frustrated, but was patient and encouraging. Yes, men and women will fight, and we can often say things that are out of line, but we must all remember to work hard at communicating clearly and humbly. If we say something we shouldn’t have, we need to apologize. We need to care about the feelings of our partner. Women need to be strong enough to demand respect from men, but also be humble enough to admit when they’re wrong. We all need relationships where we both build each other up. It becomes difficult to have a healthy relationship if we tear each other down, or if only one person is giving all the encouragement and receiving nothing in return.
When it comes to relationships, humility is first and foremost about trusting each other. Humility is about stepping aside and allowing the other person to take the lead; it’s about putting one another’s interests before your own, and knowing the other person has the best in mind for the relationship. If you don’t trust your partner, there’s no way you can ever humble yourself before them because you don’t believe they can take care of you. If you’re not able to let them lead, then you have to ask yourself if you truly trust them. When there’s no trust, then you can’t have a healthy God centered relationship.
In Ephesians it says wives should submit to their husbands in love, and men are to love their wives. A wife should submit to her husband as the Church submits to Christ. We don’t submit to Christ out of the fear of His wrath, but because He has demonstrated His love for us. He showed us compassion, love, grace, sacrifice, forgiveness, mercy and humility. When we see the love God has for us, we surrender and love Him because He loved us first. This is the same way husbands and wives should love one another. Wives don’t submit to their husband because he’s better than her, or superior to her, but because they love each other.
“Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.” 1 Corinthians 11:11-12
A woman submits in love, because she trusts him, based on the love he has shown her. He works hard for her, loves her, takes care of her, and pursues her. She sees his love for her and responds by submitting to him and loving him back in the same way. They both put each other’s interests before their own. This is what humility is all about: love. She should absolutely still have opinions, and rebuke him if he’s wrong. She can be submissive and still be a strong dedicated woman of God. It takes a strong woman to be selfless and put full trust in her man’s leadership. Scripture also says that submission isn’t only for husbands and wives, but all Christians must submit to one another in love. We submit to God first, to our husbands and wives, and finally to our brothers and sisters in Christ.
It means a lot to us men, when women show humility towards us. Just like we need a strong woman to rebuke us when we’re wrong, teach us when we don’t know something, and lead next to us when we need a partner, we also need a woman who will let us be men. We feel the need to be leaders, and want to take care of you, so we need you to show us that you need us and trust us enough to take charge of our relationship. We need you to respect us as we respect you, step aside and let us lead. and show us you have confidence in us. Build up our confidence, show us our leadership means a lot to you, and tell us how much you appreciate the work we do. That is part of your job as our partners, to be our backbone and our support. If we feel like we’re taking care of you and that you know we love you, then we feel stronger and like what we’re doing for you matters. Humility is a quality of Christ we must follow, and it does so much in showing how much you love and trust us as the man in your life. Absolutely show us that you love us in words and in your actions, but also show us that you love us by allowing us to show you that we love you back.
We need a women’s perspective to snap us out of our insecure way of thinking. Us men need women to let us know that we matter. Let us lead. Let us take care of you, and let us know you appreciate it. I know women need to find a man who can take care of them spiritually and emotionally; a man who pursues you and shows you he loves you. Yes, first and foremost, a man needs to put effort into showing you how much you matter to him. But we still need you to remind us that we matter to you. We need to hear it and for you to show it. We need to know you’re being taken care of and that you appreciate what we do. If there is no confirmation, then we begin to doubt ourselves. Let us take care of you, and we will feel loved. Submit to us, and we will submit to you. We need a humble, strong Christian woman to reassure us in actions and words.